Recently a reader of my post about hypnosis and the subconscious stated his problem how to get rid of negative thoughts. Everytime he tries to access his subsconscious mind, he finds himself feeling like he’s too self-bashing and negative. So I want to pick up his comment and explain why he doesn’t have to be afraid of his own shadow. Instead: train subconscious mind.
This subject is of utmost importance because without the connection to your subconscious mind, without an inner dialogue which includes the dark aspects of your personality, you won’t be able to access the hidden powers and the beauty which encompasse your life.
Conscious mind versus subconscious mind
For well over 100 years, psychology is used to make a distinction between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, a professional and thus artificial distinction which I dare to question. I don’t refer to the different layers of reality, which I acknowledge, but to the partition of the mind. In the end it’s just your mind with all the chattering going on, be it positive, negative, surprising, threatening or contradictory in itself.
For me the crucial point is, to have the nerve and pause for a moment considering all the different voices populating your mind and all the feelings they bring with them. It’s your way of perceiving the world, all that is, right now. Is it thus possible to observe intensly what’s going on, without getting overwhelmed or without splitting your mind again Consequently, can we escape the conflict at all?
Afraid of your own shadow
I can relate to the feeling of being afraid of one’s own shadow. And in case someone is lacking a sense of basic trust, it’s even more difficult. So in the end it boils down to the question: Who am I? Having gone through hard knocks as well as liberating encounters I’d rather transforme this question into the following: Where am I? What reality encompasses me? That of service to self or service to others, splendid isolation or loving relationship?
This question has got a spiritual quality which I would like to share with you. The question, where I am, contains the question: Am I connected with the Source of Life, with the origin of all that is? As a spiritual being I’m an expression of this Source making a unique experience in this body of mine.
To me, this is very concrete: Even though people and situations said NO to me here and there, now and then, I can sense a strong and loving YES which was here before all of this happened. Once again I was overcome by this insight when I listened to Valse Do Mar, a song by Freedom Café, a few days ago.
What’s at stake here is your very essence, the challenge not to identify with your thoughts or emotions. You’re not the flaws that muddy your personality the same way as you’re not the shining traits. Real peace of mind, lasting joy lies beyond the struggle between opposite poles, beyond the persuit of pleasure or flight from discomfort.
At first this may sound weired to you, because it’s not tangible. How can you traine something which cannot be defined and therefore doesn’t fit any method? Let me propose instead a simple exercise which helps you on this path and hence deal with negative emotions:
Imagine you’re sitting at the river bank, watching the water go by. Every once in a while a ship comes by representing a thougth of you, with words posted on the sail like “You’re a looser”, “You’re the best”, “Why haven’t you…?”, “You should…” or “You just cant sit here and do nothing”. Every one of these ships invites you to come on board. Now, instead of following the invitation you can say: “Thanks, I’ve seen you but I’ll stay here on the shore.”
The same ships might come back again and again. Then, just say good bye and let them float. After a while the traffic will calm down until it’s quite. Nevertheless you might find some unresolved problems, where you need to take action like asking for forgiveness or making clear your stance. And to the ships that defninitely do not belong to you, just say unflinchingly: “This is not my business, no use of coming back, leave!”
If this is the first time you’re delving into this subject, then I welcome you to a rich and exciting adventure! Don’t be afraid of the vastness of this undertaking; take one step at a time. Finally this may be the reason why you’re here in this life.
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